Archdiocese of Newark 2023 Lenten Regulations

1. The days of both Fast and Abstinence during Lent are Ash Wednesday and Good Friday. If possible, the fast on Good Friday is continued until the Easter Vigil (on Holy Saturday night) as the "paschal fast" to honor the suffering and death of the Lord Jesus, and to prepare ourselves to share more fully and to celebrate more readily His Resurrection. The other Fridays of Lent are days of Abstinence.

On a day of Fast, only one (1) full meal is permitted, and two (2) smaller meals, which, if added together, would not exceed the main meal in quantity. Those between the ages of 18 and 59 are obliged to fast.

On a day of Abstinence, no meat may be eaten. Those who have reached the age of 14 are obliged by the law of abstinence.

2. The obligation to observe the laws of Fast and Abstinence "substantially", or as a whole, is a serious obligation.

3. The Fridays of the year, outside of Lent, are designated as days of penance, but each individual may substitute for the traditional abstinence from meat some other practice of voluntary self-denial as penance.

4. The time for fulfilling the Paschal Precept (Easter Duty*) extends from the First Sunday of Lent, February 26th to The Solemnity of the Most Holy Trinity, June 4th.

*Canon 920, §1. All the faithful, after they have been initiated into the Most Holy Eucharist, are bound by the obligation of receiving Communion at least once a year.

September Club 2023 Trip Schedule

The STA September Club ministry has published their 2023 trip schedule!

Note: Because the COVID Virus is still with us, we ask that all travelers, both members and non-members, have proof of vaccination to travel with us this season. Masks are highly recommended on the bus and inside theater venues.

The St. Thomas the Apostle September Club announces all the planned trips for this year. We welcome non-members to join us. Don’t miss out on a great opportunity to have a fun time.

  • “Murder On The Orient Express” April 19 (Wednesday) 7:30 pm at the Paper Mill Playhouse preceded by prix fixe dinner at Joey’s Tap & Tavern, Millburn. $135 Per Person includes dinner, show, bus transportation & all gratuities. (Bar purchases at restaurant not included).

  • Lunch at the Breakers, Spring Lake, NJ May 17 (Wednesday) Enjoy a day at Spring Lake, enjoy some shopping, a prix fixe lunch at The Breakers followed by some time to stroll along the beach and perhaps dip a toe in the ocean. $85 per person includes lunch, bus transportation & all gratuities. (Bar purchases at restaurant not included).

  • Lunch at the Windlass Restaurant and Boat Ride on Lake Hopatcong July 11 (Tuesday) Enjoy a boat ride on Lake Hopatcong, NJ’s largest lake, followed by a buffet lunch at the Windlass Restaurant. $115 per person includes boat ride, buffet lunch, bus transportation & all gratuities. (Bar purchases at restaurant not included).

  • Gaming at Wind Creek Casino, Bethlehem, PA August 2 (Wednesday) $35 per person includes bus transportation, driver tip, & $25 Slot Play. Will spend 5 hours at the casino.

  • Carmine’s & the Cathedral Church of St. John the Divine August 30 (Wednesday) $105 per person includes a 60-90 minute tour of the Cathedral Church of St. John the Divine followed by a family-style lunch at Carmine’s Uptown, bus transportation, & all gratuities.

  • Lake George & Saratoga Springs 4 Days/3 Nights, Sept 26 thru Sept 29 (Tues-Fri) Enjoy guided tours of Lake George, Saratoga Springs and Lake Placid, including the Olympic Village and “Miracle on Ice” rink; cruise Lake George, visit Saratoga Casino, the Saratoga National Historic Park, and more; $670 per person based on double occupancy includes fees for all activities, 3 nights lodging, 2 breakfasts, 2 dinners including gratuities, bus transportation & driver tip.

  • Brunch at The Brookdale, 1099 Broad St., Bloomfield, NJ November 5 (Sunday) $55 per person includes family-style brunch & gratuity. No bus, travel on your own. Join us to wrap up our travel year.

Please note, some trips have limited capacity. If you’re interested please contact us at Septemberclub4@gmail.com or call Renee Miscione at 347-675-3581 for individual trip information sheets. These have a short form at the bottom that must be returned with your deposit to reserve your spot.

From the Wellness Ministry: Blood Pressure Screening and Glucose Evaluations Now Offered

The Wellness Ministry is back!

We will be offering blood pressure screening and glucose evaluations in the Parish Center after all of the Masses on the third Sunday of each month: March 19th, April 16th, May 21st, June 18th. Refreshments will be served. Please mark your calendars.

Please join us for questions on basic health issues, medications and other medical, nutritional and general concerns.

As you may recall, the Parish Center was closed in the past for some activities on Sunday mornings related to COVID restrictions. We look forward to welcoming back all parishioners!

Register now for The Gift of Years: Growing Older Gracefully

The Gift of Years: Growing Older Gracefully

Prayer Day March 14th, 2023

Loyola Jesuit Center

160 James St Morristown, NJ

Based on the book By Sr. Joan Chittister, Benedictine Sister of Erie

Sr. Joan speaks of there being the “young old 65-74, the old old 75-84, and the oldest old, 85 and over”. All of these ages have some things in common - each of them faces specific issues at the same time.

Living in a transitional age such as ours is scary: things seem to be falling apart, the future is unknowable, and so much doesn’t make sense, raising many feelings forcing us to pay attention to our fears, regrets, relationships, the meaning of life.

There is wisdom and grace in exploring the gift of your years and learning how to grow older gracefully

Come and spend a prayer day pondering with soul friends and God the transitions in your own life noticing how the presence of God has been with you, and where do you go from here.

RSVP Phone: (973) 539-0740

RCIA Blog: Balancing Act

The picture above can be interpreted as the balancing act we each have. The feelings we associate with the heart and the reason we associate with the brain can become precarious. The routine of our lives has us choosing which to follow and which to ignore. This picture is an apt metaphor of how St. Thomas Aquinas described our rational soul.  Per Aquinas, our rational soul has three complex powers. He describes them as intellect (reason, memory, calculation and understanding), the will (act, movement),  and the passions (feelings, desires, emotions).

To Aquinas, the will is synonymous with act, our actions. Our will is not automatic or automated but blessed to be free, as in free will.  There are bodily functions and actions that do not rely on our volition like breathing, heart rate, digestion, etc. Aquinas described these functions as different powers our soul in some ways shared with other living things. The other living things do not share the rational soul, that is, they are not self-aware.  There is a great deal of classical, medieval, and modern thinking about our souls. The model used by Aquinas works well to help us understand the interplay between desire (passions) and reason (intellect). Particularly because they seem to be at odds with one another. St. Paul alludes to this quandary in his letter to the Romans, “I do not understand my own actions. For I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing I hate” (Rom 7:15). We understand this struggle within each of us as an injury of the Fall.  Our passions (the heart) and our intellect (the brain) are not aligned within us.  They struggle to assert themselves and dominate our will, our actions. The Fall of Adam and Eve left us at odds within ourselves. This is called concupiscence or the predisposition to act contrary to what is good.

We often picture a devil on one shoulder and an angel on the other struggling to get a person to act in one way or another.  The devil and angel image simplify this struggle too much. This image reduces the real struggle as between some perfect good and some terrible bad or evil.  It is more helpful to think of our man on the tightrope. He demonstrates the act of will, that is, his movement toward his goal while balancing competing perceived goods.  His passion for what he desires  draws him forward and what he fears keeps him focused on what to avoid.  At the same time, he learns, analyzes, and concludes rightness by reason. The true struggle is not between choosing what is bad or what is good. The struggle is between what we desire as a good and what we know to be a good. These may not be the same and sometimes they can be very different things. Our passions and our intellect seek what is good and avoid what is bad or evil. This first principle of our nature is written on our hearts by our Creator.  Yet, the desire to do good is sometimes at odds with the desire to feel good or avoid discomfort. “They [the faithful] show that what the law requires is written on their hearts, while their conscience also bears witness, and their conflicting thoughts accuse or perhaps excuse them” (Rom 2:15). Here we have the issue. We  may want to  avoid actions which bring unwelcomed consequences, even though it may be the right action to do. Conversely, we may arrive at a considered opinion for action that lacks compassion, empathy or even mercy. These are powerful and weighty decisions. In a manner of speaking, they can throw you off balance.

Our man on the tightrope demonstrates the balancing act between these two powers within us. While our thoughts and conclusions may be judged right, moral, correct or their opposite, passions cannot. Passions simply are, they offer no considered response. By reason, we may judge our passions as aligned with the good  or not. This is demonstrated by the fact that our man does not merely  stand balancing on the rope. He has a goal, a destination. Each decision he makes, each of his adjustments either aids or inhibits his progress to that destination.  For us, our goal is to be with God and share in the Beatific Vision.

We may say that our intellect informs the will, and our passions direct the will. It is not one or the other, it is both. Just as the tightrope walker most progress forward in act, he must also balance desire and knowledge. The tightrope walker has skill, experience, and knowledge to help him succeed. What do we have to succeed? We are baptized in the Holy Spirit and freed from Original Sin. We are therefore free to do what is right. We contend with concupiscence and so must pray for guidance, inform our conscience with study, and participate in the sacramental life. What will keep us in balance? The regular reception of sacraments of Reconciliation and Holy Eucharist. Our passions are powerful, so is the Holy Spirit, our intellect is fallible, but the grace of God is not.

– Frank Miller